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November 25, 2012 at 11:20 pm #171894Kol DrakeModerator
In the military, we were told how to give a lecture — “Tell them what you are going to cover; Tell it to them; Then tell them what you just told them.” Oddly enough, it works — intro; main topic; recap and closing.
Backtracking is another excellent skill to learn in order to maintain and deepen rapport. When you are in conversation with another person whether it is business or personal take the opportunity to give back to the person the information you are receiving. This lets the person know that you were listening and that you understand without judgment. It also gives you a chance to ensure your own understanding and/or ask for clarification. Something I have used many times in the past… “so, let me see if I understand this…” or “so, you are saying…” or “let me get this straight…”. By bouncing their concepts back at them, you are showing (1) you really were listening and trying to understand them and (2) you are working on that ‘making both have the same mind imagery/concept’ stuff… so you are speaking ‘the same language about a topic, etc.
If you were matching posture, breathing, key words and gestures, voice characteristics and did not attempt to backtrack your rapport would eventually slip through the cracks. The backtrack is the thread that tightens the rapport. Backtracking is saying back the essence, not verbatim, of what the person had just said.
There are times when you backtrack and the other person adds on or corrects you. Being corrected can strengthen rapport because then you backtrack again and the person really feels you understand. There is also the possibility that being corrected will cause you to lose rapport. However losing rapport is like losing your balance. You fall, recover, and get back up again. When you lose rapport you have to find a way to regain it. Some of the ways to regain rapport are to backtrack accurately, mirror posture, breathing, key words and gestures and voice characteristics.
Then again, there may be times that you want to be “out” of rapport with someone. For example if it isn’t healthy for you to be around certain people, you are held hostage at a cocktail party or you are doing it for effect. Typically people think the way to break rapport is to be demeaning or disagree. There are better, smarter ways, my young padawan! Intentionally mismatch posture, breathing, key words/gestures, and voice quality. Rely on mismatching the nonverbal communication and you will be out of rapport.
For those of you who like experiments try this: Disagree strongly and maintain rapport. Agree completely while breaking rapport. All experimenting should be done in a non-critical environment. And best if you let your ‘test subject’ in on it after it’s done… just so no fur gets too ruffled.November 27, 2012 at 12:13 am #171950Kol DrakeModerator
Telepathy, the direct transmission of thoughts from one person to another, is a fun psychic skill to practice.
More often then not, it tends to be a transmission of ‘feelings’ / emotions or general imagery instead of a silent ‘talking conversation in your head’ kind of thing. (( or as much as I have had experienced so far… )) A good friend and his wife tended to really mess with peoples’ minds when they would say half a sentence and the other would either laugh or comment on the ‘unspoken’ half… or start a new sentence since the ‘half’ was received ‘unspoken’. Just was weird to sit in the back seat and ‘see’ them in action. Many married couples tend to gain a form of it after a bit. It is not something most can consistently do with conscious effort yet, but the more one practices it, the more often it seems to arise naturally, and the more accurate one becomes.
Of course, you have so many other factors which might be ‘clues’ to ‘assume’ when considering telepathy. I mean, obviously you have to discount the effect of naturally thinking more alike simply because a couple has been together for 12+ years. And they can certainly read each other’s body language well enough to have a good chance of guessing the other person’s general thoughts. “Knowing” one another tends to make it easier though, sometimes, it is just plain .. well, they are my weird friends… so it is natural for them to not speak yet say tons.
Now, if you want to ‘play’ at testing your abilites — try playing a trivia game. If one of you reads the question, do not even look at the answer until the other person has made their guess. Otherwise you are vulnerable to a ‘brain pick’. If you have no clue what the answer is, but know your partner peeked at the answer after reading the question, then try to telepathically pick the answer out of their brain.
Play Trivial Pursuit and it can become more like Telepathic Pursuit. If you do know the answers to the questions but want to make it harder… pick a wrong answer to concentrate on and ‘send’ it. See if they answer with your ‘wrong pick’. heh… may not be the correct answer but it will help show that you are sending and receiving signals!
Another ‘game’ you can play is to create a common mental place that you could both visit in your imaginations. For example, a garden with a bench. Mentally visit the garden and leave an imaginary object on the bench. Then the other visits the garden in their imagination and looks at what is on the bench. Journal and record the results. Overtime you will both find it easier to ‘visualize’ images and to get more detailed results.
Telepathic connection seems to work best when one does not try to force it. When it works, it works. As an ability, it seems to be driven more by our subconscious beliefs than by conscious effort.
Even if you do not want ‘total communication’ — being able to ‘hear’ another’s internal voice can give you the edge in communicating and / or getting ‘the jump’ in a situation.
Learn more about ‘connecting’ in the WWTF thread on Connections.August 4, 2014 at 4:19 am #181329Kol DrakeModeratorDeveloping Your Intuition
By Kirsten Harrell, PsyD, 2013
EVERYONE has intuitive potential – men and women. It is a natural talent that everyone possesses. It is not something special limited to only a few gifted individuals. As a child, you freely accessed your intuition. Unfortunately, over time you likely received negative feedback from your peers, teachers, or family. You likely began to doubt your intuitive voice and shut down this channel of information.
The first and most important thing that you can do to develop your intuition is to acknowledge and honor the intuitive messages that you are currently getting. Your intuitive voice is still there, you just need to tune into it. Start paying attention to and trusting those little hunches or gut feelings that you have. If you did nothing more than start honoring your intuitive impulses, you would find a dramatic improvement in your intuitive abilities.
1. Clearing your mind
It is easier to hear the whispers from the soul when your mind is quiet and open. You likely have lots of thoughts running through your mind at any given moment. You probably spend much of your day multi-tasking. All of this “noise” makes it difficult to hear your intuitive voice. It is important to find some ways to quiet your mind. You can not shut off your thoughts completely, but you can learn to slow them down. Let all the distracting thoughts flow out of your mind. Let them go. Picture your thoughts floating away on a cloud. Focus on your breathing and allow your mind and body to relax more with each breath. You might even try counting down from 10 to 1 and allow yourself to relax more with each count. Once your mind is clearer, you can then access your intuition.
There are many forms of meditation and all are excellent ways to get centered and quiet the mind. Even a few minutes of meditation daily can increase your ability to hear your intuitive voice. Meditation is like priming the pump. As you get used to being in a meditative state, you will find that it is easier to hear the whispers from your soul and to distinguish these messages from other mental chatter. If you are new to meditation you might try sitting quietly and focusing your attention on a candle flame. When your awareness drifts (and it will), simply bring your attention gently back to the flame. You can also try focusing your attention on a short phrase or word (mantra) that you repeat over and over to yourself. Remember that the key is to gently bring your mind back to your focus point. Getting frustrated will only interfere with the process.
You can use imagery to help you access intuitive answers to your questions. Imagine yourself in a quiet place in nature, surrounded by beauty and wonder. Make this image as vivid as possible by using all of your senses. Spend a few moments simply enjoying this place in your mind’s eye. Then, imagine a treasure chest nearby. You feel excited as you approach the chest because you know that the answer to your question is inside. Take a deep breath and imagine yourself opening the treasure chest. Do not try to control this, let your intuitive mind guide you. Trust that whatever is inside the chest is your answer. You might receive a very clear answer or you might get a symbol that doesn’t make logical sense to you. Either way, it is exactly what you need. Trust that if the answer is not clear right away, it will become clear over time. Over the next few days, be open to feelings, songs, conversations, or any synchronistic events. Be patient! If you become frustrated or try to force an answer, you will block the flow of intuition.
While you are sleeping and your conscious mind is at rest, your soul has the opportunity to bring intuitive information to you through your dreams. When you are working on a problem and looking for your intuitive guidance, take some time before you fall asleep to ask for an answer to come to you through your dreams. Be sure to keep a journal by your bed so that you can record your dreams the moment you wake up. Your answers may come symbolically and may need some interpretation. Look for the emotions and themes of your dreams and see if this sheds light on your problem. If the answer still is not clear, be patient and remain open. You may find more clarity with time.
You can use affirmations to focus your mind. It is best to use affirmations with some form of relaxation (such as deep breathing) in order to get the combined effects of a relaxed body and focused or centered mind. Affirmations are a terrific way to tap into the power of your subconscious mind to help you reach your conscious desires. Affirmations should be concise sentences stated in a positive way. When creating an affirmation remember to state what it is that you want, not what you don’t want. Another important guideline is to always use the present tense when creating your affirmations. The following are a few examples of affirmations to increase your intuitive abilities:I trust my intuition.
My intuitive voice is consistently accurate.
I access my intuition easily.
It is important to practice using your intuition. When you first start practicing you may want to begin with small issues that do not have a significant impact on your life. For example, try to guess who is calling before you pick up your phone. Guess which elevator will show up first when you are standing in front of a bank of elevators. Practicing with these simple issues will allow you to stay relaxed and focused without too much distraction from fear or other mental chatter. As you practice, you will get better at recognizing your intuitive impulses and you will gain confidence in using this skill. The more confident you feel about identifying your intuitive voice, the more you will trust it and be able to act on it. As you practice using your intuition and build your skill, you will find that your intuitive voice is a precious resource – an indispensable gift. You can use this inner wisdom to guide you in all of your decisions at work, at home, and at play. The more you use and trust your intuition, the stronger it will get and the more confident you will feel about it. The whispers from your soul will always guide you to the path that is for your highest good.
So, exactly what we teach at the IJRS — relaxing, meditation, mindfulness, practice…
So much can come through us by doing these simple things every day.August 4, 2014 at 6:53 am #181339AtticusModerator
I like this. It’s a very concise version of the contents of the intuition books I have reviewed recently. The only thing I would add is the usefulness of journaling not only dreams, but any intuitive insights / hunches / visions / images / gut feelings / etc., so as to provide you with a baseline accuracy measurement.
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