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August 25, 2017 at 11:51 am #143547YoshioModerator
Although this could be posted somewhere else, I feel, as it deals with how to act as a family, it is maybe best presented here.
Today I would like to share a post of which I came across when checking FB post of my Bujinkan contacts and I felt it could be beneficial for all, Jedi or not, parents or not.
For those who want to read the original post, here is the link:
TERRORIST ATTACKS – ADVICE FOR FAMILIES
For those who don’t want to check external links, here is the post:Quote:TERRORIST ATTACKS – ADVICE FOR FAMILIES
Manchester, targeting tourists, policemen and families of all ages, nationalities and backgrounds, what can you do to reduce the risks to you and your family during a terrorist attack.
Run, Hide, Tell, is the UK Government’s advice on what to do if you are in the horrific situation of being subjected to a terrorist attack. But what are the practicalities?
This differs from the American, Run, Hide, Fight advice, and rightly so because we are British and that’s just not what we do. Seriously though, Run, Hide, Tell does make more sense because you don’t need to be told to fight, those that would fight will do it naturally and it’s a small minority of the population, so for the majority, Run, Hide, Tell does make more sense.
I’m a security consultant, 37 years old, ex Army officer, specialist close protection operator, enjoy fitness and train in Muay Thai kick boxing. I have no doubt that I could out Run even the most enthusiastic Islamic extremist, I’d even take my chances on Fight if Run wasn’t an option and I’d like to think I could hold my own. However the situation changes considerably when I have my eight year old boy and six year old girl with me.
All of a sudden Run, Hide, Tell isn’t as straight forward as it might seem.
In any overwhelming and out of the norm situation the normal reaction is to freeze, pause and allow yourself time to try and work out if what you are experiencing is actually happening. This is time that you just don’t have in the event of a terrorist incident, you’ve got to react immediately.
If you haven’t directly witnessed the terrorist incident but you hear an explosion or gun shots or see people running and shouting about a terrorist attack, then do not run. Because if you are running with a crowd of people and you’re with your children, all of a sudden you’ve become the slowest people in that crowd. Hide immediately, move into a shop, into their stock room and barricade the door, go into a restaurant and into the toilets and lock the door, or go into a hotel and start to make your way to the upper floors away from the lobby. The terrorists want easy targets and speed is not only critical for you, but also critical for them, as the longer the attack takes, the greater the likelihood that they will be stopped or killed. They want crowds, congregations of people, or those that have froze, so they can inflict maximum carnage in the smallest amount of time. What they don’t want is to be running through a shop trying to break into the stock room, or moving through a restaurant to the toilets where they will in effect trap themselves and leave themselves open for a counter attack, or to be running up the stairs in a hotel on the off chance that their next victim might appear. Once you are in your place of refuge then stay there until someone tells you that it is safe to come out. If the police tell you what to do then do exactly what they say.
If you directly see a terrorist attack or hear someone shout Allahu Akbar then again you must react straight away. If you see someone close to you firing a gun then you need to drop to the floor immediately and drag your kids with you, before huddling them under you and shielding them from the threat. If you hear someone shout Allahu Akbar but don’t hear firing or see them stabbing, then again, react immediately, drop to the floor and drag your children with you. If you witness people being stabbed and don’t have time to move into a place of refuge then you need to put barriers between your family and the attacker. If in a restaurant then use a table. If in the street, a railway station or shopping centre, then use your shopping bags, suitcase or your extended umbrella. Remember, they want easy targets and the harder you can make it, the more likely that they will move onto the next target away from your family.
The world as we know it has changed, the Islamic extremist threat is here to stay so maybe it’s time to start rethinking about how you go about your normal everyday life to reduce the likelihood of your family being the victims of a terrorist attack.
If going to a restaurant then why not sit towards the back to give yourself more time to get into the toilets to lock your family away should someone try to attack through the front door. If you are traveling, where possible try to avoid the peak travel times as these will be the busiest and therefore most crowded so the best time to attack. At airports, move through security as soon as possible to where the duty free is as this is the safest part of an airport. If at the cinema or a concert then know where your emergency exits are so if there is an incident, you can move away from the largest crowd of people which will be the main target of the attack. Or when walking down the street know which shop you would go into to seek refuge.
It’s really sad that we have had to change our mindset and way of life, but the next time you are in a restaurant, train station, shopping centre, or walking down the street with your family, ask yourself, what would I do right now if there was a terrorist attack. Remember, REACT, HIDE, BLOCK.August 25, 2017 at 11:58 am #194259JaxKeymaster
This is a good point. Being with kids is a different challenge. I like the prevention tips as well. Thank you. While unlikely to be in an attack, knowing how to be better prepared helps with that background concern.
Sent from my iPhone using TapatalkAugust 25, 2017 at 2:48 pm #194261RiddleNoxModerator
Alex Bird had a workshop tangentially related to this at the Gathering. It was about how having a son and a wife change how he is a Jedi. He talked about how being a Jedi in this lifetime is a compromise. We cannot be the monks from the films (nor do all of us want to be).
In a totally ideal world, we could sacrifice ourselves completely to service. That kind of liberation is enticing, I imagine. But, we have families. Many of us have siblings, spouses, and/or children. Suddenly, our priorities have to turn inward at some point because love is a two-way street. We have to take as well as give. So, being a monastic, detached Jedi is impossible in this lifetime.
He talked about a situation where, if he were alone on the street and he saw some kind of altercation brewing, he would be able to intervene (he, of course, has the proper training for this). But, if his 3-year-old son were with him, the situation would be different. He said that the person being mugged might die. Alex said, semi-seriously, that he would come to the funeral and cry. But, he could do nothing because his first priority is to his son.
Part of situational awareness is understanding the context through which we enter any new scenery.
That’s a good article, Yoshio. Thanks for sharing.August 28, 2017 at 12:28 pm #194294YoshioModerator
Now, as I do have a little one at home myself, I fully can understand what Alex was pointing out and I would even expand that to that when one has someone, more or less, relaying one you, one cannot any longer just think about themselves and the possible outcomes for them but also what kind of influence their action will have for those who are depending on them.
This means, for example, if I would witness a situation as it had been described by Alex, in the past I would have intervene and did what would be possible to deescalate the situation. Now, as I have a wife and kid at home, even when I’m on my own, I have to first think about what my actions might have for an influence on them. Maybe I can clear the situation, but maybe, in a worst case scenario someone gets hurt and I would have to go to prison for it, it would mean that my little one would lose her father, at least for a while, and my family would lose a major part of income which, obviously, would put my wife in the difficult situation to organise everything by herself as I wouldn’t be able to assist anymore.
So, havening someone depending on you doesn’t make it easier and I guess that is what they meant in the fiction when they said that it is forbidden for a Jedi to have any (love) connections.
For me, having a family, now means that my family always will come first and has the highest priority. Then after my family, will come all my relatives and friends and then everyone else.August 28, 2017 at 5:20 pm #194300Kol DrakeModerator
From PARENTS magazine online —
>> How to Talk to Kids about Terrorism << Intro paragraphs —Quote:Yet another horrific terrorist attack has taken place—this time in Manchester, England, where children were among the 22 victims of a suicide bombing that took place at an Ariana Grande concert. When such senseless, devestating events make headlines, it’s natural for children to hear about it and ask questions like, “Why do people want to hurt us?” How to answer this heartbreaking question is something no parent is naturally prepared to do.
“We’re all looking for ways to explain something that’s impossible to explain—because we don’t understand it,” says marriage and family therapist Susan Stiffelman, author of Parenting With Presence: Practices for Raising Conscious, Confident, Caring Kids (An Eckhart Tolle Edition) and Parenting Without Power Struggles: Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids While Staying Cool, Calm and Connected. Talking about terrorism is different from other scary news, Stiffelman adds, because we’re accustomed to natural disasters, but we’re unprepared for random and atrocious displays of violence.
Also a nice bit at the end —Quote:Empower them.
Terrorist attacks are scary because they make us feel out of control, so help your children focus on areas where they do have power over their safety. Daniels recommends talking to little kids about strategies they use for keeping themselves safe, like wearing a seatbelt in the car, wearing a helmet when riding a bike, and practicing fire drills. “Simple little things like that all help kids think, ‘Well, gosh, there are things I can do to keep myself safe.'”
For older kids, talk about ways they can get involved, like writing notes of support to kids in the country that was attacked or holding a bake sale to raise money for an aid organization.
Your family can also develop an emergency action plan to make kids feel safer. “Have kids get batteries for flashlights, have water stored somewhere, talk about how you would get in touch if the phones weren’t working, who would pick them up from school,” Daniels says. “All of those things, again, are about empowerment.” Plus, talk not only about what you would do in a time of crisis but in good times, too, Daniels says, whether it’s discussing what they want to do for summer vacation, the books they want to read this year, or who is coming over next for a playdate. “You want to help your kids be able to think about the future, and to be hopeful.”
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