I have been doing exercise Kol recommended from seven years ago, I met my other, she is nice. I have been asking questions as from Chapter 10 of the link in the reply. I am going to start doing this more often and carry a diary in the car. I know when I am get warned about something bad, my stomach knots, bad chills, a voice saying BAD IDEA, but, the good things, no. And, if it hurts someone in someway, double no.