But the difference is intent. Yes, the dead are still dead. But how that ripples into the future can depend greatly upon your intention. Also, in the end, what matters besides how it affects you inside? I mean, we need to take others into consideration, but what will affect you in the coming years is how you feel about everything. If you make a decision that makes everyone else happy, but makes you miserable, is that a good decision? I would say it isn’t.