Hi Jax, to know what to do in such a situation is always difficult. The matter is simply out of our hands. I am a geriatric nurse, I don`t know anymore how many people I`ve accompanied in death, but each death has been different. Some die peacefully, others violently, others are afraid and don`t want to alone, some have even found it humorous. There are those though who want to be alone. I remember the relatives were there 24 Hrs a day, but at that very moment where they went to take a coffee the mother died. Very often though I had the feeling that any preperations, actions or rituals were for the relatives. It was they who had to cope. The dying had very often already made their peace with death.