Thank you Icarus, that’s a good list. I’d also like to add that, if the person was a veteran, call the VA. They know how to do everything and will make sure the person gets the military honors they deserve. That was the best thing Carrie did, to remind the family to contact them. It makes things go a lot smoother.
I haven’t heard from anyone yet, which is probably good. The waiting is probably the worst part. You want it to be over with and yet not happen at all, all at the same time. It’s important to remember that the emotions surrounding death are complicated due to humanity’s complicated relationship with death. Don’t take it personally, and be prepared to absorb things you may not otherwise – and then channel that stuff into the ground so you don’t become overwhelmed.
If anyone has anything else to add, I’m sure we’d like to hear it.