I agree with what you’re saying and I’m really glad you took the time to write all that out.
While I’m not quite in the adult world, I’m quickly approaching it and I know that you can’t let little things get at you, or you’ll be miserable and angry for your entire life.
Since I’m still in high school and almost a senior, I do have a lot of friends who find offensive things funny. In today’s media, it’s hard for people not to poke fun at extremelly sensitive issues, and in a way, I find that it’s a good thing.
When it comes down to religion, sexuality, political views, people always have something to say, but rarely voice their opinions on it in fear of being casted out, or starting a conflict. Confrontation is always something I try to avoid, and realising that you can’t always treat every statement as an invitation to defend your beliefs to the death is the easiest way to keep a debate in check and not lose a friend.
I also find that when a statement is made and another person freaks out about it, it may prompt the person who made it to continue what they’re doing, just to get a rise out of you. Remaining calm not only keeps you out of these situations, but it also makes it seem like you have enough confidence and conviction in your beliefs, not to get overly agitated about it, almost as if you’re not only proving a point to them, but to yourself as well.
I have some friends who frequently enjoy making fun of everything and everyone, they’re never really serious about it and it’s always just something they do, and they can take the insults just as well. When I first met them and they found out that I liked girls and not guys, they immediately jumped on that. At first it would bother me because I was still coming to terms with it myself, but I always let it slide and I realised it was how they treated everyone. Two years later I’m glad they did it because it really helped me understand that it was okay to be how I was and I would have people who accepted me for it. The topic comes up frequently and they always have some new perverse question to ask or some cheesy pick up line in hopes of “turning me to the right side” and that stuff may have offended me before because I wasn’t completely okay with myself, but now that I am I realise it’s all just there way of saying they care.
While this is kind of jumbled because I just woke up, I hope I got my general view accross.