Self Development Exercise Six: Changes

  1. Is there anything about yourself that you wish to change (physically or psychologically)?

  2. What do you think you could change to make yourself more approachable?

  3. How might these changes (from both Question 1 and 2) improve you as an individual?

  4. Can you foresee any problems with these changes?

  5. Given the answers to the above questions, do you want to change, or could you be comfortable with the person that you are now?

This exercise is designed to serve two purposes. Firstly, it is to help the student consolidate their answers to their previous questions by reviewing them and deciding, based upon those answers, whether or not they think changes to any of the various ‘spheres of the self’ are necessary or desirable. As before, this will give anyone reviewing them some idea as to the levels of self-esteem possessed by the student, as well as some idea as to how content the student is with themselves. In addition, it is also helpful to see if the student can draw up a list of aspirations from their answer to these questions, and see how they might move towards fulfilling these objectives further along in their training. Do their perceptions of necessary changes alter at all?

The fourth question is designed primarily to make them consider the potentially negative consequences of any of the changes they might decide are needed or simply wanted. It’s extremely easy to look at something you consider to be negative about yourself, then to ascertain what you want to do about that. However, it is far more difficult to envision that such a change might actually do more harm to you in the long run than it will good. Hence, it becomes necessary through doing this exercise that students give consideration to the true nature of the changes they envision. This will serve as good practice for later on.

The last of the questions was asked both in order to try and force the student to understand that, regardless of whether or not they consider themselves as being positive in various ways, they need to inevitably learn to accept themselves during their various stages of personal development. Our methodology takes many years to adopt successfully, and if a student cannot feel comfortable until it is done, they might as well give up at this stage. It’s perfectly natural to have aspirations, but if one cannot feel content with themselves while endeavouring to become a better person, they can never achieve the serenity or balance that our path aims to prompt, instead always being frustrated with themselves, which is inappropriate for any practising Jedi Realist.